Working with LLUMI, you will hear a lot about the power of shaping your identity. It is because the way you see yourself is a precedent in the way that others perceive you. The messages that you communicate in the way that you think ‘to’ yourself (such as, “I’ve never been good at…) are layering rows of bricks in the wall of obstacles in your mind.
Do a simple test now. Get on the floor and do some push ups. Notice the difference when you think (or even say out loud) to yourself “I can’t”. Your body will instantly feel like giving up and you most likely will drop to the floor and thank your lucky stars that its over. Try it again and instead of “I can’t”, think “maybe I can” – 9 times out of 10, you will be able to do more than you did in the first round, even though you are tired from the push ups you did previously! This ‘self-talk’ is recognised not only in elite athletes, but business circles, relationship circles and basically every area where progress is needed or wanted.
For a real-life example. We have a client who is struggling with his business. He often says “I just can’t stand feeling like this anymore”. Imagine the effect that this sentence has on his physiology and the limiting ability that this would have on his attitude and efforts to put forward effective steps to rescue his business! We have been training to say “Maybe I could…” in exactly the same situations, and he has turned around many stressful and frustrating episodes into some of his greatest successes.
Try doing this in the most frustrating areas of your life – “Maybe I could… be kind to that person that I’m a rival with at work….get up 20 minutes earlier to make a healthy breakfast….go to that networking function to gain new contacts…make the phone call to my boss/wife/husband/friend….Maybe…” and then DO it! You’ll be surprised how empowered you feel.
Just try it. Maybe.
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