Find out who you are when the pressure is on!

It may be easy to be idealistic about the certain ‘type’ of person you are. When everything is going relatively calmly, you can be patient, polite, organised, etc. However, when life throws unexpected things at you, you find yourself in a frustrating situation, pressure arrives from a new area – here is where you find your true self: your real strengths and weaknesses. These are the most crucial points in which you can evaluate your character (and the character of those around you). For example, if you are tired and find yourself being rude and obnoxious to your significant other/family member/child, you are seeing an important part of your character that may need severe and concentrated adjustment. It is not enough to say “I’m sorry, I was tired”. It is important to learn to be who you want to be – your fair and ideal self, especially in these situations as these are the windows into who you really are. Conversely, if you are weighing up who you want to keep close to you – observe them in times where pressure arrives. If the person cannot be strong with you or for you at a time that matters, this may be an indicator of a lack of commitment or care deep down. It’s time to evaluate whether this is ‘enough’ for your time and energy in that relationship. This doesn’t mean someone should be your slave, or not have any moments of weakness, but if the same patterns emerge in yourself or another repeatedly, it is important to really ask yourself if it is enough, if it is solvable, and what actions you must take from there.