At LLUMI, we begin by discussing self-image and rating our clients’ sense of self-importance. Why do we do this? Simple. If you don’t love yourself and take care of yourself, you will often be running into burnout, fatigue and resentment. If you spend most of your time looking after other people and neglecting your own needs and desires, little joy and appreciation flows from what you do. Even though you feel that you are being unselfish and helping other people a lot, your attitude will often detract from the potential joy and quality of the gift that you are intending for others. For example, if you find yourself working tirelessly to provide for your family, coming home and cleaning and cooking and organising everyone – you may begin to feel a sense of purposelessness and resentment creep in. Your exhaustion will not enable the situation to flourish and be one of contentment and love. It is best to look at a situation and identify where you can meet your own needs, so that the ‘giving’ part of you is well nourished and does not spring from a place that is empty and neglected. You may indeed discover that your loved ones will appreciate your uplifted mood over a vacuumed carpet, some quality time spent ‘hanging out and relaxing’ rather than a larger pay-check from the overtime you have worked. You are a human, you are designed to feel and to be renewed by rest, hobbies, interests and quality time spent with loved ones. It’s time to write down your typical week (or just the one you are presently in) and identify time slots where you can put yourself first, refuel and replenish.
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