It is all too easy to place the blame for things that go wrong in life, in relationships, at work on outer circumstances and the seeming failures of others. It is much simpler to identify character flaws in others while turning a blind eye to our own weaknesses and destructive habits. It is so important to look at the situations that frustrate us and identify where we have let ourselves down, where we have reacted inappropriately, where our ideology has served to put us in an undesirable state. We form patterns and habits in our brains based on our perceptions of past experiences. This is a survival mechanism, but it can also trap up in negative and destructive ways of thinking. In relationships, for example, if you have been hurt before it may be a habit for you to expect others to hurt you in the future, and so you are overly guarded and constantly looking for ways in which the person will potentially hurt you; breaking down the potential of a fulfilling and satisfying situation. At work, if you have convinced yourself that you ‘hate this job’, you are hardly going to be looking for positive ways that it impacts your life, the things you would miss if you left and also ways to enhance your skills and abilities through your work. So, before you start rapid-firing at the things and circumstances around you, recognise your weaknesses and assess them for their validity. Have you done everything that you can to change it? If it is still not working, is it best to leave or have a significant conversation with someone? You are never truly ‘stuck’. We are infinitely adaptable and especially in our modern society, our situations are extremely free and flexible – make that most of that!
LLUMI Australia 