We all have a style of self-talk, and it is one of the most important conversations that we have each day. Our preferences and tendencies in our thinking become apparent when we step back and observe our “self-chat”. This is very separate to your actions, as you can be doing every task possible for a human being, but saying victim-style things such as, “I work harder than everyone else, it’s not fair”, “This never ends”, “No one appreciates me”etc. This style of thinking puts the control outside of you – your life is just ‘happening’ to you (or is against you) and you demonstrate little awareness of your own power and choices that have led you to your moment.
Or, you can be doing those same things and speaking to yourself in an empowering and self-directed way, “I am so impressed that I can accomplish so much, I’m making progress” and “I’m so proud of how far I have come, and the opportunity to be experiencing this part of my life. I am excited about how I am preparing for my future”. Remember, these thoughts are independent of the actual work you do. Even while relaxing, you could be saying “Oh, I bet someone else is doing something way more exciting” or “I’m fortunate to have this time to rest, I know that I will do the things I need to at the right time”. Take notice of how your speak to yourself today – are you at the mercy of the world, seeing your circumstances as completely unjust? Or are you grateful, in control and able to see the way forward?
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