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How do you get success?

Success, to many people, seems really elusive – for the chosen few whose lives have aligned and pushed them into a living experience that we see as far away and unobtainable.
However, success is much more common than many of us think, especially those of us who have grown up in circumstances where reinforcing the ‘norm’ and finding an adequate job for survival is seen as the most likely outcome.
But, if you look around – every shop that you visit to buy your food, newspaper, petrol – it was opened by someone who took a big leap of faith and, mostly, they are successfully working for themselves now. Every brand that you have ever heard of has the dreams and hard work on an individual or small group of people willing to take a risk to build something new and uniquely them. And you’ve heard of them.
We hear stories of people who have overcome seemingly insurmountable barriers to fly their colours in this world – but we think that we can’t. Many of us have SO much opportunity that we feel almost paralysed by it. Or we are channeling that opportunity into being mediocre.
We challenge you today, to just imagine your own real potential. To dream a bit more and then to place this into your future reality mind. Make a plan and start making subtle shifts today to get there.
Because you can, just like others have.
​​SMLXL

 

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Expect the Best

Have you ever heard the expression, “Keep your expectations low, and then you will never be disappointed”? To me, this is the single most depressing sentence I have heard. What kind of energy are you sending out into the world? Sure, it may not be wise to place your entire load of hopes and dreams on a lottery ticket, but wandering around with a default of negative thinking won’t be doing you any favours. When you start looking for the good in others and situations, the way you view the world transforms. And whilst it may not have changed in essence, your experience grows steadily more positive. Of course, this doesn’t mean you are to foolishly invest time in people and situations that don’t serve you, blindly hoping for the best, as this would be counterproductive. But with careful plans, you have much more to gain by expecting them to grow and flourish.
​​SMLXL

 

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Dreading Monday?

Mondays are havens for self-pity and doubt about the coming week. However, they can also be a fresh start and an opportunity to shift our perspectives. Maybe you are dreading your work today – chin up and look for something positive that you could incorporate, whether that be encouraging someone in what they are doing, making a new friend on the commute, reorganise your desk so that it has a calmer ‘flow’, having a delicious lunch break or creating a really great piece of work. Whatever can bring you satisfaction and reduce your dread towards the task, incorporate it into your day. The more moments of delight that we can incorporate into our lives, the more we feel a real sense of accomplishment and achievement. So, what will you do to bring a spark or two into your day, today?
​​SMLXL

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The Role of Trust in Goal Setting

What stops us from staying committed to our goals? Why do we ‘fall off the wagon’? Usually, it is a fear that we won’t be able to handle this task or habit in the future. We listen to an inner doubt, telling us that we aren’t really that sort of person, or it is going to be too hard.
We ignore the fact that we have successfully (and if we admit it, it wasn’t that hard) completed a few steps already.
But we don’t trust ourselves, and we don’t trust the world to see it through to the end.
We fear that circumstances will come up that we can’t control and that we will fail when they come. So we don’t continue.
We fear that our future self isn’t capable. So we don’t start.
It is easy to quit – that’s why so many do. But, it is easy to switch that voice inside your mind and instead listen to the one saying “I’ll deal with it when it happens, and I will succeed”.
If we stop demanding perfection every step of the way, and we are optimistic in trusting our present and future selves, we will be taking steps everyday to realising our goals. They don’t have to be huge, but they will be consistent and optimistic. So don’t worry about tomorrow’s problems today, just do what needs to be done to take you one step further and TRUST that tomorrow, you will have the strength to do it again.
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​​SMLXL

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Don’t Let Past Failures Create Doubt

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When we are about to take on new adventures, or re-starting old initiatives again, we can often find ourselves questioning our abilities to see this through. If we have tried in the past, and failed, we find ourselves expecting or predicting that this same pattern could happen once more. However, there may be a more productive way to look at our past failures.

We all know the principle that we learn from our failures, however, our negative self-talk and the doubt that creeps into our minds about others letting us down, circumstances working against us, or a lack of ability or tenacity within ourselves, can often undermine our confidence to build our future.

But we are not the same person anymore – we have built on our previous selves, gained insight into our faults and strengths, and we can use them with success now. Our failures and mistakes are now the foundation that help us to make strong and confidence steps forward.

So, let’s start again.

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Are You Happy Today?

Many of us feel that the opportunities and potential of our days are dictated by our mood or motivation. A question in response to this attitude – can you make yourself 10% happier today?
How?
Close your eyes and visualise yourself 10% happier than you are right now. You may feel the weight of resistance in your conscious mind, ready with a list of why you shouldn’t feel happy. Attempt to skip through that momentarily. Picture yourself as that happier version of yourself. What would you do? What sensations would you feel? How would your posture, your interactions, your level of excitement and productivity change?
Now a final question – if you can imagine yourself 10% happier, can you manifest it in your reality now? You could even push it to 20% or 50% happier. Ultimately, the power to improve our mood, attitude and resulting behaviour is within us.
​​SMLXL

 

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Take a Sober Look

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It can be easy to look at others and make moral judgements about how they aren’t making the most of their time/opportunities/privilege and how hard you ‘have it’ in comparison. It’s a tempting victim mentality, a justification for your own frustrations and shortcomings. However, it is important to realise that everyone has a complex web of life, obligations and commitments – many of which are unseen and you are unaware of. Your path is your path – and it is the only one that you are qualified to judge. Do so soberly and with the same amount of judgement that you throw at others – or just let go of the judgement altogether – whichever is more motivating for you!

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Set Your Boundaries

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Do you find yourself saying ‘yes’ to everything that people ask you to do? Does this lead to you having little time to take care of yourself and the things that are important? It’s time to set some boundaries and practice being assertive. If someone continually asks you for favours that chew up a lot of your time, simply explain that lately you’ve been really busy and are struggling to stay on top of everything and this time, no, you won’t be able to help. Sometimes people get into a habit of asking certain people for things, without really evaluating the effect it has on them. Remind them of it, and they will slowly come to appreciate your time and boundaries.

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You’re doing WELL!

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Some of us are really hard on ourselves about the things that we haven’t yet achieved. However, it is important to realise that you do many things VERY well each day. And that these things should be recognised and appreciated as progress. Getting into the habit of recognising your strengths will form a more positive attitude within yourself, and making you more likely to try new things and believe that you are capable. So show yourself some love today and recognise the hard work you are doing!

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Don’t Just Focus on the Goal

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People say taking the first step is the hardest – and sometimes that is true. However, it is common for us to take one step and then relax a bit too much because we believe that the rest of the process should be relatively ‘easy’. Not so. Our impatience to get to the goal without laying important foundations of discipline and behaviour adaptation can often rob us of the everyday willpower to continue those steps and processes that build us into people who will appreciate and maintain those rewards and goals. It is demonstrable in the case of many lottery winners – they instantly get to a financial goal, but have none of the discipline and appreciation of earning that money, so they often find themselves in similar states of financial status within 6 months of their win. So appreciate, trust and persevere with the journey – it is the most important part.